Monday, March 21, 2016

CV is back!

We're back from our hiatus!

As always, the meeting is going to be Monday 3/28, from 8 to 10 pm, on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. It's too early to say, but the weather might be cold and rainy. For this week's forecast, tomorrow's gonna be super cold in the morning but will warm up towards the evening, mid 50s; Wednesday through Sunday it's gonna be mid 50s low 60s, partly cloudy, with the exception of Friday, when it's gonna rain in the morning. 

Here's the event description:

With recent news events, the gathering of information via interrogation utilized by the military has gotten a lot of attention lately. Most of us grew up on police shows and their interrogation methods. Being who we are we can see the kink potential in everything, thus, here is a class that uses the government's own manuals from the 1960s to Abu Ghraib and Guantanamo and police procedures to show sound methodologies of extracting information, or of just having good clean, dirty fun. Sir Guy will describe and demonstrate some of these methods and discuss the psychology and the aftermath of interrogation.

Presenter bio:

Sir Guy lives in a polyamorous 24/7 power exchange relationship and identifies as Master and Daddy. He has been publicly active in the BDSM scene for over a decade. He is an Emeritus Member of the Board of Directors of The Eulenspiegel Society (TES), member of MAsT Metro New York and MAsT Edgewater Park and an Associate Member of ONYX NY/Northeast. He is also Director of The Dark Lair - BDSM education and support for People of Color.

Hope to see you all there!

Arya (she/her)

Monday, February 8, 2016

CV Meeting 2/8: grounding strategies for triggers

As always, the meeting is going to be Monday 2/8, from 8 to 10 pm, on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. The weather's gonna be really cold. Expect low 30s with rain or snowfall.

Here's the event description:

In this interactive discussion group we will talk about practical coping strategies such as breathing exercises, sensory stimulation and other techniques that you can employ to make times when you might be triggered more manageable. We'll have an opportunity to practice these skills as well as share your own techniques. We will also discuss how to create a wallet-sized piece of paper that lists what you generally need (water or no touch or cuddles or medication etc.) when you are triggered so you will be able to share this with someone instantly even if you're nonverbal.

Although we will most likely not be discussing anything trigger-y in great detail, there is an implicit trigger warning for this class.

Hope to see you all there!

Monday, December 14, 2015

CV meeting 12/14 (last one of the semester): Stretching for Rope Bottoms with @Ian_Michaels

As always, the meeting is going to be Monday 12/14, from 8 to 10 pm, on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. The weather's gonna be pretty reasonable, low 60s but it will be raining.

Here's the event description:

Please bring a towel or yoga mat to lay on. The floor is carpeted but you might want something softer.

This is the last meeting of the semester and your last chance to grab free food at the amazing JJ's dining hall after the class!

This class has no prerequisites!

Learn the different techniques to increase your flexibility by using various stretching techniques that are safe and easy to do. These techniques will help you to increase your range of motion while strengthening your core muscles. This workshop will provide information on ballistic stretching vs. static stretching. It will also go into Active Isolated Stretching and PNF stretching, You will be learning from a Certified Performance Enhancement Specialist.

Presenter bio:

Ian Michaels, aka Mike, combined his love for massage therapy and BDSM with Trophy Wife's love of sensual kink and developed Fetissage. Mike has a Master's degree in Exercise Science and is a professionally trained massage therapist. Mike's professional background as a certified massage therapist and instructor provide the background needed to enable him to present engaging and educational workshops. Ian currently teaches a number of BDSM workshops under the Fetissage umbrella.

Hope to see you all there!


Monday, December 7, 2015

CV meeting 12/7: D/s - theory and practice with Jeff Mach

As always, the meeting is going to be Monday [TEMPLATE_0], from 8 to 10 pm, on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. The weather's gonna be high 40s dry and not too windy.

Here's the event description by Jeff himself:

I'm going to talk about, and demonstrate, some ways of finding, exploring, seeking, and building using D/s and D/s dynamics. I hope you'll excuse me if I quote myself - but I want to get this event posted, and this piece of writing gives a good idea of the sorts of things I plan to talk about:

Any fist can bruise a chest. All you need is a bit of training, a fist, and two appropriate bodies. But that's never the fist that I've wanted.

The fist I've always sought, when I am striking a partner, starts inside. If you've ever thought you've seen that punch start in the air and land on the body, you've caught an optical illusion.

The best fist begins inside ribs and tears its way out. That's why there's that concussive echo that goes up through your skull and kicks the back of your knees. That's why you think you can smell your own blood; it's splashing up into your face. That's why your heart feels torn open. Because your heart is being torn open.

Hope to see you all there!

Monday, November 30, 2015

CV meeting 11/30: Functional rope for bondage with @SirNoyes

As always, the meeting is going to be Monday [TEMPLATE_0], from 8 to 10 pm, on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. The weather's gonna be mid 40s with teeny tiny chances of rain.

Here's the event description:

Come join Sir Noyes for the evening and learn about rope! This class focuses on functional ties and learning what to do with them. Separate but complementary to particular schools of rope, come listen and learn how to tie up your partner in a safe and fun way with a focus on functional rope.

Please bring extra rope if you have it!

Presenter bio:

SirNoyes has been involved in alternate lifestyles for over 15 years and active in the kink scene for the last 3. Over the last year and a half he has been actively practicing, teaching, and introducing others needle play with an emphasis on safety under RACK protocols.

Hope to see you all there!

Monday, November 23, 2015

CV Meeting 11/23: Negotiating better experiences (and a show and tell!)

As always, the meeting is going to be Monday 11/23, from 8 to 10 pm, on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. The weather's gonna be really cold, high 30s with moderate humidity, no rain, and moderate to little wind.

Here's the event description:

When they first come into the scene, many people begin their negotiations with something like "I am into floggers, paddles, knives, blindfolds and rope". But for most of us, it is not the implements themselves that we enjoy, but rather the feelings, experiences, and connection that they can bring about.

In this workshop we will learn how to move away from negotiating implements ("I like knives") into sensations ("I like feeling the pain of the cuts") into feelings ("I want to experience fear and helplessness") and ultimately into connection and exchange ("I like the feeling of surrender I get when you use a knife to express your touch and intentions").

We'll be looking at various implements (bring your own to talk about them!) and exploring what different types of physical sensation they can cause, what feelings they can bring about and in what ways you can use them to connect with your partners.

We will also discuss different modes of negotiation ("I'm okay with x, y, and z and everything else is off the table" vs. "I don't want a, b, and c and especially like x, y, and z and everything else is on the table" and other modes) and how they can change the dynamic of the scene by possibly using implements in a way your bottom didn't expect. We'll also talk about the benefits and caveats of freeform negotiation compared to more tightly setting boundaries.

Hope to see you all there!

Sunday, November 8, 2015

CV presents: Kink, Disability, and PTSD with @SirGuy (FREE FOOD at JJ's afterwards!)

Hi everyone,

This special GKE con drop edition CV class will be held, as always, Monday from 8pm to 10pm, in Hamilton 509. Helps to have a map. The weather's gonna be clear, mid 50s with no rain and basically no wind.

After the class, I'll swipe up to 10 people into JJ's place, Columbia's premier junk food cafeteria, for free, regardless if you went to GKE or not! Free food!

The traditional images of BDSM and Kink show long lithe bodies with minimal body fat in tiny outfits accentuating muscular sinewy forms. The fact of the matter is that image represents a small percentage of the kink community. There are many who have disabilities, some invisible, others very visible. In addition to our physical limitations, many of us have suffered life traumas that have affected us in a variety of ways. It has recently been realized that many in the general population suffer from post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) as a result. How do we deal with our limitations and still enjoy kink and life? How do we help our partners do so?

Sir Guy, a 9/11 first responder who himself deals with PTSD and other disabilities leads this discussion.

Hope to see you all there!


Monday, November 2, 2015

NO CV meeting tonight

Hi everyone,

Just a reminder that we won't be having a CV meeting tonight, 11/2 due to university holiday.

Hope you have a great week!

Monday, October 26, 2015

CV meeting: tonight 10/26, Connective Tying with @Dubious

As always, we'll meet on Monday (10/26) from 8-10pm, in Hamilton 509. The weather's gonna be dry, in the low 50s with barely any wind.

There is nothing dubious about this class! We discuss techniques for building and maintaining connection between the participants in a rope scene. The goal is to better give and take in scenes where we stay focused and immerse ourselves in tying sensually and with affection. We then will practice a variety of exercises together for tying in a slow, mindful and connective way. These activities assume little in the way of prior experience as the emphasis is on the participants themselves.

Please bring rope if you have any, and we'd be super grateful if you could bring extra for people who don't have any! No pressure though, our presenter will have a bit more on hand.

Hope to see you there!

Monday, October 19, 2015

CV presents: tonight! 10/19 Navigating gender-related triggers!

Hi everyone,

We're excited for another event tonight, as always, in Hamilton 509, from 8pm to 10pm. Helps to have a map. The weather will be miserably cold, dipping into the 40s, with winds of up to 10mph. On the bright side it will be dry and mostly clear!

This meeting is going to be most useful for trans and nonbinary people but of course anyone is welcome and everyone will hopefully be able to get something from it (even people who aren't trans or nonbinary might gain a better understanding of how gender plays into a scene). This event is part of Queer Awareness Month!

We'll be talking about:

Getting rid of assumptions -- not everyone likes to have sex or do kink the same way!
Negotiating to use or avoid specific terms for body parts
Ways in which to have sex that minimize dysphoria (we'll be using slides not actual genitals for demonstration; there won't be exposed genitals)
How to handle being triggered during a scene and how to better anticipate the ways in which you or your partner can be triggered and the reactions that are likely to happen
Feeling at home in your body even outside of sex or a specific scene.
This class can be open and free-flowing conversation or more lecture style, depending on what you're comfortable with.

Naturally this class comes with a pretty huge trigger warning around dysphoria. Feel free to step out and leave at any moment and I won't be upset or offended in the least.

About me:

Arya, the president of CV, will be facilitating this class. She's an AMAB transfeminine genderqueer person who's dealt with dysphoria and gender-related sexual assault in her life, which unfortunately makes her as much of an expert on these issues as most other trans or nonbinary people (it is a sad world we live in). Most of the ideas and methods presented in here aren't new, but they have helped her tremendously and maybe they will help you, too.

Hope to see you all there!

Monday, October 12, 2015

Tonight! 10/12 CV presents: Rope Basics with NerdcoreBecca

This meeting will be tonight, Mon 10/12 on Columbia's campus, Hamilton 509, from 8 to 10pm. Helps to have a map. The weather will be high 60s with slight wind and chance of rain towards the end of the event.

This is a crowd-driven 101 workshop based on the needs of the participants. Topics can include single- and double-column ties, basic arm and leg binders, ichinawa/connective rope, rope for people with zero rope skills (knotless rope), or just general discussions on ropey things. Nerdcorebecca has been tying and being tied for nearly 3 years and doesn't plan on stopping anytime soon.

Check out our website:

Hope to see you there!